Words by Maureen Young

“I finally found someone, that knocks me off my feet
I finally found the one, that makes me feel complete
We started over coffee, we started out as friends
It’s funny how from simple things, the best things begin”

~ I Finally Found Someone, Barbara Streisand and Bryan Adams

The reception opened with dancers performing traditional dances from Rwanda to welcome and introduce the bride and groom.  The dancers paraded the couple to their seats with all the fanfare of a red carpet moment.  The couple are then presented to each side of the newly joined family.

A speaker from the groom’s side welcomes the bride, her family and the guests before opening the floor to other speakers.  The bride’s family gives a speech about delivering the bride in good condition and that she is a spoiled girl and should be treated well by her new family.  As part of tradition, Shoko is given a shield and Icumu (spear) by the head of the tribe, showing that he now has a family and home to protect.

A dance, the Intore (meaning ‘The Chosen Ones’) is performed.  Traditionally the performance was shown exclusively at the Royal Court  to demonstrate excellence and bravery either prior to or after going to war.

Shoko is a Industrial Designer and wanted to design a perfect ring for Aline.  Using her birth stone to create something unique and exquisite.

Celebrations continued the next day with a Gutwikurura (unveiling the veil) ceremony. This ceremony is dedicated to the bride, her family represented by her Aunt on her father’s side.  The Aunt unveils the bride and shares with her secrets and wisdom on marriage.

A beautiful marquee in the backyard provided a communal point for both sides of the family to come together.  Shoko carried the spear he received and placed it outside the marquee.  Traditionally, the spear shows that the man is home and acts as a cautionary sign to the amorous young men in the village.

The Bride also receives a basket, representing the wealth of their family, to then give to her husband so he can protect their wealth.  A calabash (used to make butter and cheese), food and seeds to plant their own garden are also given.

Shoko also cuts Aline’s hair to symbolize that she is not single anymore and a crown is placed atop Aline’s head to show she is now a married woman.  

Bride + Groom then serve each other and the kids in attendance Ikivuguto as a symbol of sharing and nurturing.

The joint family celebrates with wine, sharing small gifts with one another.  Older members of the family share thoughts and wisdom with the newlyweds before Aline’s family leaves.  Their leaving symbolizes that she is now home with her new family.

Aline + Shoko, what an amazing weekend! Thank you for introducing us to Rwandan culture, there is such a rich cultural heritage there.  We are incredibly pleased to have documented your wedding weekend and to your family and friends who always made us feel welcomed – Thank You!

– Love your pals

Anthony and Rina